Thanks for the replies. You are all right...
It IS a confidence thing. It is fear, as was noted. There's a point where my brain just says "whoa" and that's it. It's the Jewish mother tappnig you on the shoulder and saying "...that's enough". I've talked to a bunch of riders and it's a much more common thing than I expected. You see all these photos of people leaned over until their elbows and mirrors are scraping and think anyone can do that--apparently that's not the case.
I got my suspension professinally set up so I've eliminated that as a factor.
I'm sure focusing on speed and lean angle has been somewhat counter-productive. When the focus shifts to being smooth, having good throttle control, and being comfortable and in control, the speed tends to come a bit on it's own (to a point of course). I found recently while riding with a buddy of mine that when I was behind and trying to keep up, I was choppy, unconfident, and struggled to keep up--but when I was in front it was easier and I was moving much faster. The answer? Stop focusing on riding fast and start focusing on just riding right.
In that end I've decided to just stop worrying about it I'll do trackdays at Streets whenever I can since I'm most comfortable there and just concentrate on riding well, not on riding fast, and hopefully it will come. If it doesn't, well, whatever, lol.
Thanks again
-s